In your name I will lift up my hands

The cross is before me and the Psalm 63 says ¹O God, you are my God, earnestly I seek you; in the darkest of nights your light shines down and I behold your face. My soul thirsts for you, not like my thirst for water, this thirsts goes down to my very being and finds no quench that revives my soul. My body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. My body does not find rest; it searches to the ends of the earth and finds no rest for this weary soul. Where can I be filled?

We look for this water in alcohol, love interests, money, food, and entertainment but we do not realize these things will not fill us. We become restless with the things of this world and we go looking for that one thing that will satisfy us. We are seeking fulfillment in our life as David was seeking God to rest his weary soul.

David in verse 2 says I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. David glimpse God’s power in the sanctuary and knew only God could satisfy him. God was more than money, jewels, companionship, and careers. ³Because your love is better than life. God’s love was more important than David’s life itself. God’s love was better than his wives, children’s, palace, gold, and kingship. God came first in David’s life and he couldn’t part with that relationship. David like many of us knows what it is like to be separate from God; to live in total darkness and living for ourselves. But once you taste God’s love you long for him in a dry and weary land where there is no water. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. ⁴I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands.

In the name of Jesus Christ I will lift my hands because Jesus is better than life. Once you embrace the cross of Jesus Christ you will not want death; where you will never quench your thirst. David had a personal relationship with God that was more than going to church once a week. David sought God in prayer throughout the Psalms you hear David’s heart cry for communion with his Lord. David’s life was not his own he was sold out to God. David loved God and God loved David. In your name I will lift up my hands.

Do you want my Father’s love, protection, security, and presence in your life? David wasn’t perfect he made poor choices. David wasn’t the perfect son he committed adultery, murder, and who knows what else. We are so much like David that Jesus Christ can’t help but love us.

Jesus loves us so much that he spread out his hands in surrender and died on a cross for us. Sure, Jesus struggle with this assignment who weren’t; He prayed a good deal and asked God to take this from him. But, Jesus Christ took his place before the world and was sent to die for a sin He didn’t commit. No words came from his mouth to plead for his life. Humiliation and pain he walked that long road to the cross. In your name I will lift up my hands. Each nail was driven into his hands and feet without hesitation. In your name I will lift up my hands. Sins and iniquities were not his own; He carried them for us. In your name I will lift up my hands. Innocent of all blame he bored our sins before the world and died. In your name I will lift up my hands. Death brought life and life brought resurrection. In your name I will lift up my hands. Victory brought freedom from sin and communion with God in the heavenlies. In your name I will lift up my hands.

My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods; with singing lips my mouth will praise you. What do you find most satisfying? I find crab smothered in butter most satisfying and David says that God satisfies him like crab smothered in butter; and with singing lips my mouth will praise you. Have you ever gone without a meal worrying about your relationship with God? That food didn’t matter at all and all you wanted to know is that He has forgiven you or that you could still hear His voice when He called to you? David was forsaking all others so he could have communion with God. Earnestly I seek you; David was eagerly, seriously, deeply, and gravely seeking God’s face. When we eat that crab we desire it to fill us; and eagerly we wait for that first taste. We should have that same desire for the Lord. In your name I will lift up my hands.

⁶On my bed I remember you; I think of you through the watches of the night… Are you still thinking of that crab, smothered in butter? Maybe, you do not know the Lord or you have an idol in your heart that keeps you from your communion with the Lord. David heart was not hidden from his Lord for he cried out in prayer his sins to the Father. Give God your idol that keeps you from a close relationship to where on my bed I remember you; I think of you through the watches of the night. Why does David lye thinking of God? ⁷Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. God covered David in a protection where he was secure in God’s arms. David found rest for his weary soul and was able to sing praises to his God.

My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me. David has seen God’s power and glory in the sanctuary. He clings unto this awesome God’s who promises him: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11) David trusts in God’s words and clings to everything that is God and God grants David safe passage. Do we trust in God so that He can see us through or are we doing it on our own?

David has been resting and abiding in God’s love with confidence David says ⁹they who seek my life will be destroyed; they will go down to the depths of the earth. ¹°They will be given over to the sword and become food for jackals. ¹¹But the king will rejoice in God; all who swear by God’s name will praise him, while the mouths of liars will be silenced. David gave God his petition in prayer. Resting in God’s protection David was made strong. In God’s strength David makes this bold statement they who seek my life will be destroyed… David the king will rejoice; all who swear (give allegiance to God) by God’s name will praise him. Do you praise God when you go through trials? In your name I will lift up my hands. If you don’t maybe it is time we did. Turn your fear into victory by praising the Lord.

What can you do to earn Jesus Christ’s love, strength, protection, and presence in your life? Believe! Believe that Jesus Christ was born in human form, died on the cross for you and rose from the dead and is seated at the right hand of the Father.

Pray with me. “Heavenly Father, have mercy on me, a sinner. I believe in you and that your word is true. I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of the living God and that he died on the cross so that I may now have forgiveness for my sins and eternal life. I know that without you in my heart my life is meaningless.

I believe in my heart that you, Lord God, raised Jesus Christ from the dead. Please Jesus forgive me, for every sin… (Name each one to the Father) I have ever committed or done in my heart, please Lord Jesus forgive me and come into my heart as my personal Lord and Savior today. I need you to be my Father and my friend.

I give you my life back and ask you to take full control from this moment on; I pray this in the name of Jesus Christ.” Amen.

Thank you, Lord that we can search you out in prayer and while we wait we can rest in your arms. Thank you Lord while we rest in your arms we gain strength to come boldly to the throne room of God. Thank you, Father for your great passion of love that stands to protect your people. In your name I will lift up my hands giving you glory for a Father who gave me victory on the cross.

I pray for your people who still struggle with your embrace. I pray that your people will put to death that wall that keeps you out when you want to love on them. Tear the walls down in Jesus Christ name. Let the light into the creases of darkness that keep you in bondage to sin. Break that thing in us Lord so that we cry in your name I will lift up my hands.  In Jesus Christ name I pray. Amen.

Seek the LORD…

Seek the LordFrom one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. God did this so that men (and women) would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us.  Acts 17:26-27

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Jeremiah 29:11

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.  Jeremiah 29:12-13

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:5-7


Looking for Happiness in Life – Even in Bad Situations

Happiness Is….. – In the Eye of the Beholder


There was a time in my life that I wasn’t sure I could go on much longer, you know, living like I was.


I was a single mom raising the cutest little boy all by myself in a small apartment in Southern California.  I had been laid off at my job and was struggling to make ends meet with my unemployment checks.  I was sure I would find a job quickly, but time seemed to drag on and on without any real prospects.


In the meantime, the economy tanked.  People had to line up for hours at the gas pumps and it seemed like I spent my days staring at the job board at the unemployment office, hanging on to a five year old who was twisting my arm into a pretzel while whining “Let’s go now, mommy” a hundred times a minute.


I didn’t have a car so we walked everywhere.  Once in a while I had enough change to ride the bus which would get us pretty close to home, but of course the ride would always put my son to sleep and I would get to carry him the rest of the way home – all two miles of it- – rain or shine.


I always ran out of money right before we ran out of food.  The only thing that was kept in plenty in my refrigerator was Kool-Aid laced ice cubes.  When there was nothing else to eat, I would sit my son at the table and ask, “Ok, what do you want for dinner tonight?”  He would reply, “Hamburger! Hamburger!” and I would hand him a purple ice cube on a plate.  Looking up at me with those big brown eyes, he would politely ask, “Could I have some French fries too?” and I would plop down a yellow ice cube next to the purple one.


We would suck on ice cubes at the shabby little table, sharing the only sustenance we had.  He would get about half way through with them, his poor little hands freezing and his mouth all purple and sticky and he would say, “Mommy, I’m full now.  It’s bed time.”  So I would wash his face and hands and as he drifted off to sleep, I would clean the sticky plates with tears running down my face.

‘What a lousy mother you are, I would tell myself.  Your child just went to bed without supper.  You should be ashamed of yourself.’  ‘I am’, I would counter back to the woman looking at me accusingly in the mirror.


Looking Through a Child’s Eyes


It was Parents Night at his school and he was excited about me seeing his drawings and papers that his teacher had tacked on the wall.  Although I was looking forward to going, I knew it would mean walking home in the dark, and on top of that the night was cold with the winds bone chilling.  But seeing his little face all lit up about it, I just couldn’t say no.


I dressed him up like an Eskimo, making him wear a ski mask. I got the change I had saved for the bus and we ended up having to run to the bus stop because the driver had gotten there early that evening.  He looked at us like we were crazy and asked what we were doing out on a night like this, grunting when I replied it was Parents Night at school.


As soon as we walked into the brightly lit hallway, my son drug me into his classroom and began pointing out his spelling test “Look Mom! An ‘A’!” 


Next to that was his handwriting sample, his dinosaur drawing for Reading class, and then…there was his very own story for the “My Favorite Thing” assignment.


My Favorite Thing

My Favorite Thing is when my mommy lets us have a special dinner that can be anything we want it to be. Sometimes it is hamberger sometimes it is tacos and sometimes it is pasghetti but we sit and eat it and it tastes like good Kool-Aid but it is whatever we want it to be and it is good that mommy gives it to me on special days because she loves me. I love my mommy too.


I didn’t hear or see anything else that night.  All I could think of was the sheer grace that my son had given me by loving something that I was so ashamed of.  All I could remember were his words ‘because she loves me’.


When I think of God’s love for us, I often think back to that cold September night when my son gave me a gift of love and compassion that I knew I did not deserve at all.  I remember how terrible I felt, knowing the truth that it was not a ‘special dinner’ when I fed my son ice cubes for dinner, and it wasn’t ‘special days’ that he got nothing more than frozen colored sugar water to eat before bed time.  The truth was that I gave him ice cubes because I had failed as a parent, and there was no food for him to eat.  It was my epic failure in life that caused this terrible circumstance to be part of his life, but in spite of that, he loved me.


That was a perfect example of how God is with us.  We have epic life failures, but He loves us.  We put ourselves and others into terrible circumstances, but He loves us.  Where we see defeat, depression, sadness and just don’t know if we can go on with our life as it is, God beckons us to receive His love, His grace, and His compassion.  We don’t deserve it, but that doesn’t matter to Him, just like my failure didn’t matter to my son.  He knew that I had hopes and dreams for a good future for him.  Jeremiah 29:11 says:   For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”


I encourage you today, if you’re in a spot where things seem tough, and maybe you can’t find happiness or hope in your situation, to reach out to God and ask Him to become first and foremost in your life.  You will receive a love and compassion that far outweighs any failure you may feel in your life.  And why?  That’s easy….because He loves us  

Be Still…

Be stillHe says, “Be still, and know that I am God; Psalm 46:10a

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and  a future.  Jeremiah 29:11

Job writes … I know that my redeemer (Jesus) lives, and that in the end he will stand on the earth. And after my skin has been  destroyed, (you die) yet in my flesh I will see God; I myself will see him with my own eyes—I, and not another. How my heart yearns within me!  Job 19:25-27

Though you have not seen him, (Jesus, the Lord God) you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation of your souls.  1 Peter 1:8-9

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts
and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:5-7


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Asking the Right Questions- Introduction

Are You Asking God the Right Questions?

So many times I find myself asking God questions. I ask Him if I’m important, if He has a plan for my life, if I’m living out my purpose. So many of those questions are about myself. It’s important to know that God loves each one of us and knows us better than we know ourselves, but should our focus be merely on ourselves? Is the motivation behind our seeking merely to stroke our egos?

Many times people turn to the verse Jeremiah 29:11 where God tells us that He has good plans for us. We get so encouraged that we often stop reading. We feel like we’ve found the answer to every question we have about ourselves. God says that He has a plan and we know His plans never fail, so we can just relax and keep on living our lives now. Crisis averted… But if we would keep reading, we would see in Jeremiah 29:12-13 that God wants us to seek Him. He wants us to know Him. How sad is it that even when we are seeking His plan for our lives, we stop listening when His answers no longer are about us?

I’ll give you another example. Question: How do you know that God loves you?  Answer: John 3:16. But do you know that this verse also answers the question “What is God’s plan for me?” Probably not. You see, it says that God so loved the world that He
gave His only Son so that none should perish, but all should have everlasting life. Did you see that “so that” part in there? I used to rush right past it, until I started asking God the right questions.

The Bible holds so much truth and wisdom for each of our lives, but we never seem to find it. Sometimes we wonder why God is so elusive and why He won’t just tell us what to do. We don’t see that He has already told us what to do. He wants us to seek Him. When we do that we will find Him, and when we find Him, He will give us the desires of our hearts. That seems impossible. How do we get the desires of our hearts if we can’t find it unless we seek God with all of our hearts? The answer is that God should be the desire of our hearts.

In the coming weeks, I will be writing on some of the biggest questions we ask God. I think it’s important to look not only at what we are asking, but how we are asking and why we are asking. Sometimes we want to blame God for things we aren’t doing ourselves. Sometimes we’re only looking for God to give us the answer we want. Hopefully this will be helpful in your search to know God more, and to see that He doesn’t always show up where we’re expecting Him. If He only did that, we’d never have to seek Him and we’d never truly know how great He is.

In His arms

The climb at first sight seems unattainable and risky but when you include a team of experts with your calculations than you see the end in sight. This is true with anything you do from scaling that rock wall to chartering a plane to Haiti’s; you plan using others input to make your plan come together. So, you would also need others to guide you on your journey to your heart.

My experts consist of counselors, pastors, Holy Spirit, Bible, authors, and church family they know me best. Trying to make this journey on my own would take me nowhere really fast. I tried that once and it was a disastrous to think I could accomplish what others do in a day, month, a year. Silly really…

Why did I think I could do this on my own? Let me give an example that the Holy Spirit gave me:
Looking across Lake Bountiful (my name for lake) I saw Jesus Christ on the opposite shore. I thought gazing at the water it would be a short distance I can swim this. So, I set out at an easy pace and found that there was a under current and looking up at the shore I wasn’t any closer. Getting tired I turned back and found myself back at my side of the lake. Scanning the shore I notice a boat and pulled it over and got in and set the oars to start my journey again. Again, my focus was not on Jesus Christ but my ability to pull on the oars to glide across the water. Looking behind me I wasn’t going across but going down stream. “AWWW!” Turning the boat around and focusing on the horizon and rowing at the same time was hard and tiring. I was caught in whirl pool spinning me out of control and was back on my side of the shore. “Aw!” Dropping to my knees I cried “Lord, help! I can’t do this on my own. It looked so simple. I thought I could do this. I was wrong. Please, Lord Help.” Standing up I gazed across the water and I found myself staring into my Father’s eyes the bluest of blues and I reach out and I was in His arms and He held me tight.

When you experience the arms of Christ and His forgiveness it transforms you to another place and person. All of sudden you are not alone in your plans for your future you are asking for others input. You are praying for God’s will be done in your life. The Holy Spirit pricks your heart and you begin to change and forgive. Why? The Lord forgave me of my sins for He gave up His life for me. So, I can have a life with Him. A relationship that brings tears to my eyes… When I think of all He has done for me and is still doing for me; my heart wells with love.

My Jesus is real and there is nothing I can do that will send Him away. He says in his word that He will never leave me or forsake me. (Hebrews 13:5) The Lord has a plan for me for hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) The Lord fights for me. (Deuteronomy 3:21) There is hope for a tree if it be cut down it will sprout again.(Job 14:7)

Do you know that the door is always open (John 10:9) for you. When you approach this door do it with boldness (Hebrews 4:16). Focus your eyes on the prize which is Jesus Christ. God raised us up with Jesus Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 2:6) We who are sealed with Christ have everlasting life. But, you who do not know Jesus Christ and is still playing at the gate will have fire and damnation. We do not know when are time is up on this earth we can die tonight in a car crash. Do you want to take that chance?

The Lord is waiting for you to come out of this world. I lived in this world through some horrific times do I want to repeat that time? No!!! My time now is hard with unemployment but the Lord keeps blessing me with His presence and His provisions. Life is good. My hope is in the Lord. I trust Him with my life and future. I can’t imagine life without Him. He is the hand that guides my walk I do nothing without Him. Jesus is light to my darkness.

Come to the waters of Lake Bountiful and give your life to the one whom will turn your tears into hope. In His arms you will find rest from your burdens. In His arms you will find peace that passes all understanding. In His arms you find refuge and strength in times of trouble. In His arms your heart will flourish and grow in the likeness of your Father. In His arms you will have eternal life in Jesus Christ.

Thank you, Lord that I do not have to do this life alone. You have given me eyes to see and ears to hear. You have given me a church family that prays for me and we have life together.

I pray Lord, that you draw your people to yourself and impart your Holy Spirit to live in their lives. Give them wisdom and strength to walk this path. Put your angels around about them keeping them safe. Bless them, extend their boundaries, and keep them from evil in Jesus Christ name. Amen.

Do not think

Do not think

We have been studying Esther she was a common Jewish woman by the name of Hadassah. It was in a time when the Jewish nation was scattered throughout the world. The Jewish people of Persia and Media had the opportunity to go back and rebuild Jerusalem but chose to stay with their captives. The Jewish people simulated into the culture of their captives. The only difference between the Persians, Medians and the Jewish people was that God was stamped on their hearts. Now, the King was looking for a new Queen because the old one refused to come to King Xerxes party. Esther (Hadassah) was chosen to be Queen. Now, Mordecai the Jew who raised his cousin Hadassah told her not to share her Jewish background with anyone. In this kingdom there is a man called Haman which means wrath. He is an enemy to Mordecai and the Jewish nation and plans on annihilating ever one. A verdict went out to all the provinces of King Xerxes lands giving the people the right to kill men, women, and children and to keep the Jewish people’s property on this date. Mordecai torn his clothes and put on sackcloth and ashes, sat himself down in front of the King’s gate and began to cry out in the streets. The Queen’s maids and eunuchs came rushing to see Esther to tell her of Mordecai’s distress. Esther sent Hathach her personal eunuch to Mordecai. Esther is told of the verdict that she needed to beg and plead with the King for her people.

We come to Chapter 4:10-16, which I would like to share with you.
Esther 4:10-16
10Then she instructed him to say to Mordecai, “All the king’s officials and the people of the royal provinces know that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned this king has but one law: that he be put to death.
The only exception to this is for the king to extend the gold scepter to him to spare his life. But thirty days have passed since I was called to go to the king.”
12 When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer:
Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to royal position for such a time as this?”
15Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: “Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my maids will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.”

Esther hasn’t seen the king for thirty days and to enter into the king’s presence was surely death for the Queen. She was also thinking of the other Queen who wouldn’t come to the party and was vanished from the king’s presence forever. How could Mordecai expect her to do this? Queen was acting very insecure because her husband the king was busy with other things and she was left alone for many, many nights without him.

We can conjure many reasons why the king hasn’t come to her. The harem for one; he doesn’t find her desirable anymore; or that He was busy with king duties.

The Queen has a hard choice to make. We have hard choices to make too. Do not think you have time to play outside the gates of the great I AM that you won’t get burned? Do not think because you are from an important family that your father and mother will save you from the wrath of God? Do not think because you give at your church and you’re in choir you will go to heaven without asking the Lord into your heart? Do not think that your sin is so great that Jesus Christ can’t save you?

The Queen changed from verse 10 to verse 15. From vulnerable to courageous Queen Esther stepped up to the destiny that God ordained her to live. We are all called to destinies that will save our race from the hand of Satan. Do not think that you will escape because you are smarter or wiser?

The reason for Esther change was that God planned the future of Esther before the foundation of the world. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” ~Jeremiah 29:11

God fights for us. We are destine for great things. Receive these promises:
Ye shall not fear them: for the LORD your God he shall fight for you. ~Deuteronomy 3:22
Plead my cause, O LORD, with them that strive with me: fight against them that fight against me. ~ Psalms 35:1

We do not need to be vulnerable before our enemies because if the Lord called you He will protect you. He will give you the boldness and courage to walk up to your enemies and He will put the words in your mouth. Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ…~Ephesians 1:3-10

Who knows but that you have come to your position for such a time as this?
*David was a poor sheep herder who became King of Israel and the bloodline to Jesus.
*Jewish girl (Hadassah) to save a people who were going to be annihilated
*Murderer Moses to lead his people out of Egypt
*Ruth, widower, Moabitess (her people were enemies to Jewish nation) married Boaz great grandma to King David
*Jesus Christ son of a carpenter to save us all.
*Paul, who was Saul, was a murderer of God’s people who became a disciple for the cause of Christ.

Choose this day to be courageous for Christ. If you read the rest of Esther’s story you will find that she was victorious in her quest to save her people from annihilation.

And if I perish, I will perish. If you know Jesus Christ we died with Him on the cross, already. All I can do now is rise up from the ashes in HIM. We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life. ~Romans 6:4

Esther’s life was transformed when she step out in faith to her destiny in God.

Destiny is knocking on your door. Will you open it?

I pray that you will take courage for God is with you not against you. That you will look full on the Lord’s face and receive the gift of grace He has for you. Who knows for what reason God has brought you here today to read this and find your destiny. Embrace and walk there in. In Jesus Christ name I pray. Amen.


Once upon time there was a King who loved and wanted everything for his Queen. He blessed her with everything in his means all he asked was she loved him with complete devotion. The Queen lived in a palace made out of glass. She was reflected in everything she looked into and her subjects were forbidden to look at her real self only at her reflection.

One day, a great wind arose over her kingdom one place rock shook the foundations of her palace and a crack was seen in one of her glass walls.

The Queen was shaken and when she looked at herself she saw an imperfection in her reflection. The Queen called for her builders to come and fix the problem.

The builders found that the problem wasn’t just a structure damaged but a foundation problem as well. The crack was getting bigger and soon it will be through the whole structure.

The Queen asked the builders what could be done to fix the problem.

The builders said “Queen, you must start over from scratch and build your palace on firm ground. The structure which is your palace needs to be made of wood and stone to with stand the elements of nature.”

The Queen contemplated her answer carefully not wanting to be caught in her imperfection. Looking around her at her reflection in the glass and idea came to her. She would listen to their advice and tear down her palace for a stronger palace but she would keep her glass and fill the inside palace with glass.

The King directed the builders to build upon the rock so his Queen will have a foundation that will stand firm when attacked.

The builders found the perfect place to build the palace on the rock overlooking the Almighty sea of the Great I AM. The palace was a fortified fortress with statues of angels surrounding the walls on four sides. The gate into the palace stood tall with a small door level to the ground on the far right of the gate to allow you to enter.

The Queen was saddened that so much of her precious glass was destroyed but she had enough of the glass to put into a special room delegated to her glass collection. She called this room Indulgence and she found that she enjoy this room more than any other room. She had a great idea she will move her throne room in her special room.

As time went on she moved her state room, rose drawing room, and tiffany breakfast room into her special room.
The Queen’s Indulgence room wasn’t big enough and she called the builders in to take the walls down.

The builders said, “Queen, if we take these two walls out the room will not be structural sound.”

The Queen contemplated her answer carefully not wanting to be caught in her imperfection. Looking around her at her reflection in the glass and idea came to her. What if we put in support beams and columns in the place of the walls?

Indulgence became one of the most sought after rooms in the palace. Maids cleaned and polished each plate of glass every day until it sparkled like a perfect jewel. The Queen was content to stay in her rooms and not venture out to her patriots. More and more attention was made to her glass that every hour of the day she had the maids cleaning and polishing of her glass. Until one day she noticed scratches in her precious glass that looked unsightly. The Queen sent everyone away and one by one she inspected her plates of glass throughout her room. The Queen thought this will not do she smack the bureau with her hand.

While the Queen contemplative what to do about her precious glass. The King had come home from being away and found that the palace had changed. He first notices that the rooms were unkempt and furniture was missing. Secondly, he notices that the throne room was totally missing. The King ponders to himself I am tired and my attire is untidy from being on a horse all day. I will go and refresh myself and go see my Queen. Climbing the steps to the state rooms he finds his room with no problem everything in its place but all is covered in dust. What is going on? No, I will relax and wash. Changing into a purple satin robe the King walks to the Queen’s state room. Knocking on the door one, two and three times he enters into his wife’s chambers and the room is empty of all furniture. The King stood there just staring at the empty space wondering what has happen to my Queen.

The King rushes to the maids’ quarters to ask about the Queen. He was relieved to find his maids busy in the kitchen preparing tea for the Queen. Following the maid with the tea tray he found himself in the Queen’s Indulgence room. The room was enormous and the changes were drastically beyond anything he would imagine. The King found his throne room, tiffany breakfast room, rose’s drawing room, and the Queen’s chamber room. The King heard his wife’s raised voice in angry at her maid.

“They are ruin! Look at the scratches in my looking glass. What have you done?” exclaimed the Queen. “Have you no exclamation for what you have done? Leave me.” The Queen slapped her hand on the bureau once, twice and tierce as hard as she could in anger.

Silence… the ticking of the grandfather’s clock one second, two seconds, three seconds… the clearing of the throat… the turning around… the sudden intake of the breath.

“Honey, I didn’t see you there.” The Queen is shaken hiding her expression she continues “When did you get back? How was your trip? I am sure this is all a surprise to you. But, I can explain… Won’t you have a seat? The maid brought tea for two and she made your favorite scones. Come sit down you must be exhausted after such a long ride… I just love the purple velvet robe you’re wearing it’s so regal…


What was the one thing that this King asked of his Queen? That she would love him with complete devotion. The Queen let down her King by becoming self-involved with her own image to the expense of everything around her. The palace and people were neglected for the indulgence of a thing called glass.

I have been reading and reflecting on these scriptures:
Nehemiah 2:17
… “You see the trouble we are in: Jerusalem lies in ruins, and its gates have been burned with fire. Come, let us rebuild the wall of Jerusalem, and we will no longer be in disgrace.”

Romans 7:21
So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me.

The story “Indulgence” came to me some time ago and I keep coming back to this story. What are you saying to me, Lord? Why am I in disgrace? What rock am I stumbling over?

After listening to a sermon of a Pastor that I respect very highly it was clear. My stumbling block is failures. I am constantly looking into a mirror of past failures and it is stopping me from moving into the future and what God has for me. I fail to commit to new adventures because I am caught in a time continuum that keeps playing the same story over and over again.

Lord, please forgive me for worshipping this idol called failure. Let me learn from this mistake and keep my head up for I belong to you.

My next step should be fix my eyes on the Lord and his promises “for I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. “ Jeremiah 29:11

Satan does not want you to have victory he will use anything that comes from your mouth to give him victory.

Matthew 15:10-11
10Jesus called the crowd to him and said, “Listen and understand. 11What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him ‘unclean,’ but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him ‘unclean.’”

Satan used the words from my mouth so stupid, that was humiliating, and I am a failure, Those words have crippled me into thinking I can’t be successful. It has made me look at my false self and not at what I am in Christ Jesus.

Who am I in Christ?
•Royal priesthood 1Peter 2:9
•I am accepted… John 1:12
•I am God’s child. John 15:15
•As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ. Romans 5:1
•I have been bought with a price and I belong to God. 1 Corinthians 12:27

I have been bought with a price I belong to God. I do not belong to Satan and his demons. God sent his Son Jesus Christ to die for my sins so that I do not need to listen to the lies of Satan. The Lord says, “I am accepted, I am God’s child, I was bought with a price, and I belong to a royal priesthood”. The Lord does not say, “Mary you’re a failure and you’re not smart enough to get a job”. No!!!

Meditate on my words day and night (Psalm 1:2). All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness. (2Timothy 3:16)

Help me Lord to meditate on your word so that my heart and mind will be filled with your words and not my words. So Satan can’t have a foothold the size of a wall in my life.

What is one thing that God asks of us?

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ Matthew 22:36-37

Do you have an “indulgence room” in your heart?


          “a ribbon of road was my companion”

     I walked on this road hoped to see someone, though nothing but, a ribbon of road was my companion. I was thirsty and hungry. My throat was so dry that I picked up a pebble and toss it into my mouth. Let this pebble whet my thirst. Let me draw out every last drop of moisture.  Am I going to die here, die among the creatures of the air and this dirt road? I was so lost in my thoughts that I didn’t see the bird of prey approach me.

     “Caw, caw!” screech a buzzard. My hands reached up to protect my head at the same time I swallowed my last hope, I thought.

     My hand went to my throat, and I gasped for air as I swallowed that pebble. I gazed around at the vast emptiness. That bird of prey was waiting for me to die.

     “What are you looking at? I am not dead yet. I might look like death, but I am not.”  I tried not to lose hope in the One who gives me breath.

     I was drawn away from the path to a high plateau in the mountains where as a child I would escape to have lunch with Abba. I would bring bake chicken, potato salad and for dessert we would have chocolate cake. I would have His total attention. Today, I looked off into a time when I wrestled with disenchantment, pain, being alone and I admit to the hate I felt towards my Abba.

     Look at me! Who would want me? I am without child and have lost my youth. I want to disappear like Alice in Wonderland into a hole; into a new world to save me from my shame. You say to me, Lord, “I do not know you.”

     How absurd! I spoke back to Abba, “What do you mean that you do not know me? Did I not serve you during my year of discovery? I learned to search the scriptures to find the hidden truths that you lead me too. Have you forgotten the mission you sent me on and the ones that gave their lives to you?” What does this mean? Have I been walking this path by myself? I pondered.

     I found myself back on the road, the hard ground under my feet. The weight of my burden was heavier on my shoulders. My walk stopped. Looking skyward I was trying to comprehend what this all meant. How did I lose my way? When did I get off the path? Maybe I have never been on the right path that leads to Abba. I have been lost? Please help me. At that moment I knelt down on the hard, dry ground and my dry parched throat prayed a simple prayer, “please, forgive me Abba for going my own way. Teach me your ways. I want to learn from you.”

     I remembered a song from the old book. Searching my mind I remember bits of it that says, “I trust in thee, O Lord; I say thou art my God; my times are in thy hands.”  Concentrate. I closed my eyes, and I was back reliving my past.

      You swooped in like an angel lifting me up off the rough road and sustaining me in your arms; fighting my battles with the serpents that surrounded me on both sides.

     At times it was hard to hear your voice, the dark one sounds like you. I hit the pavement with a thump! The dark one would taunt me calling me the old names that someone supposedly dear to me had call me; I struggle with my Father’s love and I would get disconcerted, disillusion and throw it in your face. You taught me that I could trust you again and lean on you. You brought me new comrades and new hope. You showed me in little tests that I can trust you again.

     And so, I started to trust God in little ways by getting counseling. I truly grappled with my faith. Does he truly love me? Finally, I was able to make changes in my life. I made more new friends and started to go to church regularly, making a contribution by leading a single’s group.

     Many tests later, I came to my biggest challenge of all. I lost everything: my home, my car, even my precious possessions. God again said, “Trust me.” When I thought of those two words trust me, they reminded me of the humiliation, pain, and guilt. And I cringed and I am reminded of my lowest moment in the hands of him. Dark memories from a time long gone but it feels like yesterday with the smell of burning flesh.

     I suddenly realized that the landscape has changed and I am very parched and sunburn. My long lost friend we meet again. “Trust me.” How can I trust you when I am losing my car? My car has been my freedom, freedom from my mistakes: marriage, unwanted singleness, shame, guilt, and you. I see. I have been running away from you…

     How did I get here, again on the road of despair? We sometimes make strange bedfellows. I lived many years in abuse and heard from the man I loved that I was stupid, dumb, and idiotic so many times. He said he didn’t want children with me because they might be like me. And so, I became numb, slow to feel good emotions. It is so very hard to trust.

     When I meet people who remind me of my ex-husband, a war breaks out in my head. I become consume with memories and distressed that can punch me down and leave me silent. I work for such a person and was trying to make my escape and in doing so lost my only income. I haven’t been able to get another job and my every moment is consumed with having my boss tell me, “MaryAnn you’re too old for the industry and no one will hire you.” I hear the voice of my ex-husband telling me, “When you look for a job, make sure you don’t have to write, communicate, or drive because you can’t do any of those things.” STOP!! The Lord has made me a promise: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)   And, then “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck and write them on the tablet of your heart.”(Proverbs 3:3) Be truthful to yourself MaryAnn. “Love shall never leave you or forsake you.”(Hebrews 13:5)   “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”(Proverbs 3:5-6)   Out of the dirty muck I cleaned off the shame and guilt off my feet. I walk with sure footedness up the path of forgiveness and grace. I know I have stumble, but life is challenging it is not painless.

     The air is cleaner up on the plateau overlooking that hard road I have been traveling. I have traveled this road constantly when I let go of my father’s hand. I believed a lie. I believed that I was worthless and that who could love me. I found that was a lie from that vulture of prey that hunts the souls of the lost children of God.

     So if you find yourself on this hard road of life and you are thirsty for love. My Father, Jesus Christ his arms are always open wide for the losted, hurted, and confused just turn around HE has been waiting for you to notice HIM. HE is standing with open arms to embrace, kiss, and offer you a home with HIM. Ask HIM in and you will never be alone.

Lessons learned on a hard road when one is so thirsty that they are driven to change:  

     1.  Give up your control of your life to God and watch Him turn your life around.

     2.  Do not let go of His hand. Focus on the word. Jesus says “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6) We are the ones who leave His side when we sin. He promised to never leave us. When we come to the Father he forgives us for our past, present, and future sins. We go into hiding when we are running away and Jesus is right there with us. All we need to do is turn around; His arms are open wide ready and waiting for you.

     3.  Set up boundaries that are attainable. Just because you are stronger doesn’t mean that you can date someone who reminds you of your ex; this is a time to flee, run.

     4.  Read your Bible every day, memorizes scriptures, and pray; the Lord wants a relationship with you. Watch what you say do not let Satan in by the words you proclaim “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14)  

     5.  If you lost everything today. Would you love the Lord more than your reputation? Give Him your pain and struggles. Let Him into your situations do not hide them from Him. HE knows all and it pains Him to see you in so much pain. Sometimes, we just get in the way of what He wants to do in our life.

     6.  Only let us live up to what we have already attained. (Philippians  3:16) If the Lord shows you something do not let someone come in and tell you different. Those special bonds you have with the Lord do not let someone come and tear you two apart.

     7.  Watch what you say do not let Satan in by the words you proclaim. “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”  (Psalm 19:14)  

Becoming an Obedient Christian

If left to our own devices, we would fail miserably, every time. Yes we may think that we are successful: a fat bank account, a house, cars, good social life, but these are all empty rewards. They will fade eventually. Sadly they will also serve as a distraction from what our Father in heaven would have us do. At first, we may see these things as blessings, especially if we have been down for sometime, and have prayed earnestly for God to intervene in our lives, and rightly so, they are. The new job, a car, a home, even a small windfall that helps to catch up your debts.

Eventually the want for more will begin to consume us as we enter the race to keep up with the Joneses. We become dissatisfied with what we have striving for more to build our mountains of wealth and gain. We forget where these gifts come from and perhaps begin to pride yourself on your gains. Subsequently, you forget about thanking He from whom all this comes from, and you begin to see yourself as the creator of your fortune. You credit your skills, talents, and intelligence, and rightly so, they have helped a great deal. But don’t forget where you obtained those attributes. God is our Father, because He is our Maker, and he alone is the credit for all of our possessions. He will allow you all the freedom you want, but be prepared, He will pull the rug out from under you, and you may lose all, like Job. He is only trying to get your attention though. Not to hurt you, but to show you how fragile these material things can be.

God loves us, and He doesn’t want us to suffer, but He will allow you some heartache, if you have strayed too far. Just read about the people of Jerusalem in the Old Testament, and they were His chosen.

Jeremiah 29:11-“I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope, and a future.”

These words mean so much, “I know the plans I have for you..”  He knows what will become of your life. He knows when you will succeed, He knows when you will fail. Can you say that of yourself? We all make plans, long term, short term. But these are only hopes and dreams. We don’t know what will happen tomorrow, much less next week. Only God, who is omniscient, knows from day to day. He knows because it’s His plan.

Isaiah 14:24 – “The Lord [has] sworn “Surely as I have thought, so it will be, and as I have spoke so it will stand,”

Indeed we are given free will, but really that is a misnomer. We are free to live as we see fit according to our lives and lifestyle, but isn’t “as we see fit” being disobedient to Him? We are not living as He would like, according to His will for our lives. He wants us to listen to Him, to ask of Him, to connect with Him and in turn, He will provide for us:

Matt 7:11“if you being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in Heaven, give good things to them that ask?

All He asks of you is an obedient relationship with Him.

God bless you all.

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No More Excuses: Be the Man God Made You To Be

3-D Sight!

A human being is composed of the physical body, the soul and the spirit. The physical body is the part that we can see and touch, the soul comprises the emotions, innate intelligence, and will of the individual, and the spirit is the part of us that recognizes and worships God.

Just as the physical body is characterized by five physical senses (sight, hearing, smell, touch, and taste), so are the soul and the spirit. We often engage our soul and spiritual senses without our knowledge. Indeed, most of us are so caught up in the physical realm that we are almost completely oblivious to the soul and spirit realms.

In our physical bodies, we see with our physical eyes. Light is reflected from an object into our eyes. Our pupils constrict or dilate to allow in just enough light, which is concentrated at the retina in the back of the physical eye, converted into a nerve impulse and carried by the optical nerve to the brain for interpretation. Our brain then tells us that what we saw was a table, a star, a car, a circular object, etc.

Now, please indulge me by performing a little experiment for me. Just as you are seated before your computer, picture yourself walking to your house. You open the front door and walk in. Now picture yourself walking to your bedroom… what do you see? What objects are lying in the way? What color is the hallway? What can you see on your bedroom door? Now you are inside the room. Try picturing the way your room is organized, the position of the bed, the color of the quilt, the wardrobe, the mirror, the window? Can you see it?

Now, come back to where you are at this very moment. Were you able to see your house and your room in your mind’s eye? What were you doing a moment ago? You were imagining. You were using the eyes of your soul to see the places that are familiar to you. You can use your imagination to see places you’ve never been to physically, you can even use it to see places, people and objects that don’t exist physically! But in your mind, you see them as clear as day! You are engaging the eyes of your imagination, the eyes of your soul.

There is another type of vision that is less commonly used. It is often ignored and sidelined because it is not understood. Because we are so much in tune with our physical bodies and are accustomed to our physical laws, we believe that what cannot be seen must not exist. True, we cannot naturally see air, but we know that if we condensed it the air it would turn into water (which we can see) and then ice (also visible).

Some people do not believe in God because they have never seen him. They think that God is simply a fragment of somebody’s imagination. But if you are a Christian, as I am, you know that God is real and much bigger than your imagination. How? Because your faith tells you so.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen with our physical eyes. (Hebrews 11:1, addition mine). Faith is the eye of the spirit. It sees things in the spirit realm before they can be made manifest in the physical realm. Everything we see in the physical realm has it’s origin in the spirit, for God is the Creator of the universe, and in him are all things made. Just as an architect must first visualize his design in his mind before sketching it on paper for the mason to use in building the house, so does God first manifest his creation in the spirit realm, before imprinting it in our imagination (or DNA in some cases), for us to then physically create the final product; a process that takes time.

When God says “By his (Jesus’) wounds you are healed,” your physical body is ailing but your spirit, by faith, sees your body whole and complete in the spirit realm. So then, your faith tells you that you will get better and you believe it because you’ve seen it. Even though you haven’t!

God says “I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.” (Jeremiah 29:11) You might be struggling financially, maybe you’re in debt, or you’ve just lost your job and are wondering how you’re going to support yourself, but when you read this verse or you hear him whisper it in your ear, suddenly you’re at peace. Why?

Because although you didn’t move physically, your spirit eyes were opened and you were able to see yourself in the spiritual realm. You saw yourself living out God’s plan for your life. Faith takes you into God’s world and into his mind. You see inside God’s mind, how he sees you; happy and thriving, your every need catered for. Remember that ‘time in the spirit realm is ahead of that of the physical realm,’ somewhat like seeing yourself in the future. You relax physically because you’ve already received the answer to your questions spiritually.

Your physical eyes have not seen it, your mind cannot understand or process it, but you know it!

You are then able to imagine yourself prospering (your 2-D sight’s kicking in now) and you begin to think of ways to make money, start sending out job applications and doing creative stuff with your physical body (your one dimensional, primary vision is now catching up). Before you know it, you have a new job, someone gives you a check, you make a simple discovery and all of a sudden you’re the next Zuckerberg or Google or Gates!

That’s 3-D vision for you! Faith.

How to find Happiness – Learning How to Forgive Yourself

Key #3 to Happiness – Forgive Yourself!

“If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose. For this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.”

 –Mary Pickford, Canadian actress

As Christians, we are taught at an early age to forgive others.  We even recite in the Lord’s Prayer, “… we forgive those who trespass against us.”  And I am sure that must of us can recall the line from a poem written by English writer Alexander Pope, “To err is human, to forgive is divine.”

We learn that we must also ask God for His forgiveness when we sin or otherwise go against God’s word.  1 John 1:9 (NIV) admonishes us, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” But how do we learn to forgive ourselves?

If you are anything like me, you may be your own worst critic. You may spend countless hours beating yourself up tor making a few mistakes in your life.  You may obsess over such things as “Why did I make that stupid comment in the business meeting this morning?” or “Why did I take the expressway this morning instead of the local streets? Now I am stuck in all this traffic!”  Or you may be agonizing over a misdirected life decision, “Why did i major in Computer Science in college instead of English? I always did enjoy writing. Why didn’t I follow my passion?” Or you may be struggling with other issues like a car accident that turned out to be your fault or a failed marriage that ended in divorce. Looking back on these incidents now, they may seem  so trivial, but at the time, the thoughts or decisions may have seemed like the most important issues in the world!

Just remember that God has a plan for your life. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Whatever road your life takes or whatever decisions that you are making, it will all work out for the good in the long run.  Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, who have been called according to his purpose.” As long as you continue to trust God and put him first in your life you will succeed. Romans 8:37, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will will direct your paths.”

Don’t forget to continue thanking God for all that He has done for you.  Ha is still working through you, even in the most difficult of times. And yes, even when God seems silent, He is still there with you!

So if you are currently working toward a specific goal on life’s journey and what you thought was going to work out several months ago is no longer working out for you, don’t give up! Take some time to regroup. Revise your plans, reshape your goals, and get back in there!

“… a lot of times the world doesn’t put rocks in our way. Instead we put them there ourselves.  When we hold on to our mistakes, we’re throwing rocks in our own path…  when we detach ourselves from worry and let go of our mistakes, the road always opens up.  That’s why if you want to make a commitment to never quitting,  one of the first steps is to simply get out of your own way.”

 — Russell Simmons, hip hop mogul (with Chris Morrow), in his book, Do You! 12 Laws to Access the Power in You to Achieve Happiness and Success

Don’t waste any more time continuing to be angry with yourself and by all means, forgive yourself for not getting it right this time.  Whatever the issue was.  Move forward with your life, starting with right now!

What is Self-Forgiveness?

To forgive oneself is not to make excuses for oneself. To forgive ourselves is:

–to pledge to learn from our mistakes;

–to gain a degree of self-control and not repeat them;

–to grow in our capacity for love and peace.

 This article may be a helpful resource for you as well, How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty

The next time you start beating yourself up for doing something wrong, ask yourself the following questions:   from personal success coach Lisa Phillips: visit her website here

1. At the time of the event, was it realistic for you to expect yourself to do something different / behave in a different way?

2. Did you have the right people around you at the time that could have helped you?

3. At the time of the event, did you have the information or knowledge you needed to make a better choice?

Forgiving yourself for your limitations is a crucial first step in healing your life.  In an unprecedented time of turmoil and stress, most human beings are doing the best they can with the resources, wisdom, and knowledge they have available to them. Yes, it’s important to learn from your mistakes, but eventually you need to get the lesson and move on.

Learn From Your Mistakes

Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. A reflection of what you have learned from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime, but repeating it, surely is! We learn from our mistakes, as we have to pay a price for them. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity.

Encourage Yourself To Move On

Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. Probably, the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future, which is always brighter and full of hope. Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead!

Share your mistakes

Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience, as life is a continuous learning process. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way.

Unburden Your Heart

If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you, speak up and lift that burden off your heart. Confess your mistake in front of a close friend, whose guidance you trust and value. A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better.


Don’t Judge Yourself

The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving, rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment. And, it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes, which are generic, but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. If at all you want to grade yourself, do that in a balanced way, not being overwhelmed by your errors.


Rituals for Forgiveness
Throughout history, there have been rituals that assisted in the process of forgiveness.   Rabbi Irwin Kula shares some of those time-honored rituals:

This is your first choice in the healing process. You cannot change the past, but you can own the present moment.
Use a Mantra: This exercise will help you change your thought patterns.  Every day, say to yourself, “I forgive myself.”  This is going to feel awkward at first, but keep doing it. This exercise is about changing your thought patterns.

Journaling: Recording your thoughts in a journal is a valuable way of releasing your feelings.  Each time you feel guilt during the day, write it down in your journal. You will be able to track when you feel this, and why, which will help you begin to understand your guilt. The same goes for the good feelings you experience. Write down the moments when you feel joy and richness in your life, and you will begin to recognize the things that release that joy.

Atonement: Learn how to consciously make a sacrifice in light of your desire for forgiveness. You can create your own sacrifice by asking yourself, “What will be my offering?” It could be philanthropy, political activism — something that requires a sacrifice of your time, money or effort. The key is to consciously make that sacrifice in light of your desire for forgiveness.

Success And Failure – Keys to happiness exercise:

  • Ask God for help (ask Jesus into your life if you have not done so already)
  • Read “God’s love for us” and “God’s Mercy” every day this week.
  • Ask others to pray for you
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For related articles – Check out:

Check out these Five Steps to Forgiving Yourself with Dr. Phil McGraw

Here is an insightful article from Prevention Magazine, Can You Ever Forgive Yourself? By Ellen Michaud , a former award-winning Prevention editor-at-large.

How to find Happiness – 15 Lesson Series – Overview

How to find Happiness – Introduction

How to find Happiness – Key #1 – A relationship with God

How to find Happiness – Key #2 – Being Thankful

How to find Happiness – Key #3 – Learning How to forgive yourself

How to find Happiness – Key #4 – Learning How to forgive others

How to find Happiness – Key #5 – Living in the present

Answers for Living

May you find true happiness, forgive yourself and may God answer your prayers – Amen!

Be Still Before the LORD

Nuggets of Wisdom – Be Still Before the LORD

“Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”  Psalm 46:10

You alone are the LORD. You made the heavens, even the highest heavens, and all their starry host, the earth and all that is on it, the seas and all that is in them. You give life to everything, and the multitudes of heaven worship you.  Nehemiah 9:6

The Spirit of God has made me; the breath of the Almighty gives me life.  Job 33:4

No man can redeem the life of another or give to God a ransom for him-the ransom for a life is costly, no payment is ever enough-that he should live on forever and not see decay.  Psalm 49:7-9

For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all men—the testimony given in its proper time. Timothy 2:5-6

How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God! For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance—now that he has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant.  Hebrews 9:14-15

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.  Romans 8:1-2

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Jeremiah 29:11 

For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.  2 Corinthians 4:6-7 

Anyone who believes in the Son of God has this testimony in his heart. Anyone who does not believe God has made him out to be a liar, because he has not believed the testimony God has given about his Son. And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son.  1 John 5:10-11

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:5-7    AMEN!!!

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