Most people I talk with see this life as the main event.  They focus all their attention on this life and look at life after death on this earth as the afterlife.

In reality, the Bible says that we are eternal beings.  When you consider eternity…let’s just say a million years, the 80 or so years most of us will live on this earth can hardly be called the main event.  The time we spend here would be like 0.000001% of our lives.  So, the 80 years here are nothing in comparison to 999,920 years to come.

Wouldn’t it be worth spending some time to ponder and consider the choices we make?  What if Christians are right?  Would you want to risk eternity?

Once we die here, we will end up in one of two places…heaven or hell.  Heaven is all we ever hoped for and dreamed about just better.  Imagine hell being the worst day of your life here, multiplied by 1,000…every day…forever…999,920 years.

This life here on earth brings its challenges…sickness, death, job loss, stress and much more.  The Bible does not promise that life a Christian will be all peaches, it actually tells us that we’ll have trouble.  All of us…none excluded.

For a Christian, this life on earth will be the worst it will ever be.  For a non-Christian, this life will be the best it will ever be.  Think about this.

How we live the 999,920 years of the main life to come depends on not how good we are but whether or not we put our trust in Jesus as our savior.

It’s not a blind faith.  Research the evidence…it’s worth your time.  Best of all, it even effects your life here is a positive way.

You might think that you have wasted your life or you have done too many bad things.  There is good news.  God is a God of second chances.  He loves you…yes even you and me as wretched as we are.  The Bible says that none are good and that Jesus died for us not because all of a sudden we became good, but as we were sinners he died for us.  He is a God of 2^nd, 3^rd…100^th chances.  Give him a try.  He does not disappoint.

Don’t wait.  None of us know if this is our last day here on this earth.

Check out Salvation, Who is Jesus, Who gets into Heaven (a quiz), Are you a good person (a test)

It’s easy to forget what Christmas is really about.  Christmas a lot of times gets busy with shopping and eating and family events.

Frankly, our lives can get very exhausting and stressful doing those things.  Worst of all, in all this activity, we forget what Christmas is all about.

Christmas is about Christ’s Birth.  The most wonderful Gift that God has ever given us.  It was the only true way we could ever overcome the curse of sin.

His coming was foretold in Isaiah 9:6.

For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

Just thinking about it brings peace and joy into my heart.  Thank you Jesus.

Are you a good person?

It’s a common belief today, including by people who call themselves Christians, that we can earn ourselves into heaven by living a good life.  Or the idea of purgatory, that we get another chance after we die to make things right by our own efforts or deeds.  If you were to do a survey, most people would  consider themselves a good person.  They believe that their good deeds outweigh their bad deeds and therefore they’ll make it into heaven.  If you are in those camps of belief, PLEASE READ WHAT THE BIBLE HAS TO SAY.

Bottom-line…we can’t get to heaven by living a good life or attending Church.  Good works are an important evidence that we are Christians, however, it will not get us saved…it is by Grace alone and by putting our faith in Jesus Christ to be our savior that will provide salvation.  We have one chance and one chance only…there are no second chances like purgatory to work our our salvation.  Don’t take my word for it…just read the Bible verses below and do your research…your SALVATION depends on it.

Who gets to go to Heaven? Take the test and find out!

On what grounds is a sinner accepted in the presence of a holy God?   Acceptance is based on the “righteousness of God in Jesus Christ”.  It is a righteousness wholly outside the sinner, accomplished by Christ, and imputed to him through the one God-given means—faith in the Savior, acceptance of His gift of eternal life.   Jesus paid the price by dying for us on the cross.

Are you a good person? – Take the test and find out!

The Bible says:

Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God.  Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin. But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.  Romans 3:19-24

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.  Ephesians 2:8-9

And that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.  2 Tim 3:15

Where is boasting then? It is excluded. By what law? Of works? No, but by the law of faith.  Therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith apart from the deeds of the law.   Romans 3:27-28

So then it is not of him who wills, nor of him who runs, but of God who shows mercy.   Romans 9:16

Who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began,   2 Tim 1:9

Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.  Titus 3:5-7

even the righteousness of God, through faith in Jesus Christ, to all and on all who believe. For there is no difference; for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus,  Romans 3:22-24

What shall we say then? That Gentiles, who did not pursue righteousness, have attained to righteousness, even the righteousness of faith; but Israel, pursuing the law of righteousness, has not attained to the law of righteousness.  Why? Because they did not seek it by faith, but as it were, by the works of the law. For they stumbled at that stumbling stone. As it is written: “Behold, I lay in Zion a stumbling stone and rock of offense, And whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.”  Romans 9:30-33

Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me His prisoner, but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God, who has saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to His own purpose and grace which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began.   2 Tim 1:8-

Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,   Romans 5:1

And if by grace, then it is no longer of works; otherwise grace is no longer grace. But if it is of works, it is no longer grace; otherwise work is no longer work.  Romans 11:6

and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; Phil 3:9

For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ,  Titus 2:11-13

That having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.  Titus 3:7

And the grace of our Lord was exceedingly abundant, with faith and love which are in Christ Jesus. This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief.  However, for this reason I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might show all longsuffering, as a pattern to those who are going to believe on Him for everlasting life.  1 Tim 1:14-16

Bottom-line, we will fail if we try to attain salvation on our own strength.  Salvation is a free gift from God for everyone who accepts Jesus Christ’s sacrifice on the cross.

The Only Way To Salvation

Here is what the Bible says…

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God Romans 3:23

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life inChrist Jesus our Lord. Romans 6:23

If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.  For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.  Romans 10:9-10

The Sinner’s Prayer

After reading all the questions and answers on the site, you may still have some very important questions concerning your own salvation. You may still not be sure that your own sins have been forgiven. Or you may not be sure that you have personally received the gift of eternal life.

If you have questions about your own salvation, we invite you to experience for yourself the truth of the bible’s teaching about salvation. Confess your sins to God, trust in Jesus Christ for forgiveness, and then, in faith, claim God’s promise of forgiveness and eternal life. He will surely give you what he has promised.

In order to help you do this, we invite you to pray sincerely the following prayer or a similar prayer of you own.

“Dear God, I confess that I’m a sinner and that I need your forgiveness. I’m truly sorry for my sins and humbly ask you to forgive me and cleanse me. I believe that Jesus died on the cross in my place and that he rose again for my salvation. In faith I accept from you the gift of eternal life, and, with your help, I promise to serve you as long as I live. I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen”

The bible says…

But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: John 1:12

That’s a promise to live by!  WELCOME TO THE FAMILY OF GOD!

What do you do next?

• Find a  Bible teaching church that teaches Jesus as savior (e-mail us and we’ll      find a local church near you for you) .
• Once you  find a church, don’t just attend a service once per week but get involved  in a Bible Study in homes organized by your Church.  It’s a place to learn and it provides important support for you to become what God has planned for you.  He has a greater plan for you than you  could ever imagine.
• Don’t be  just a user or a taker…get involved in helping out.  God  has given you gifts that are special.   You are a special person and he wants to use you to serve him and  the church.  At the end, you will be that one that is being blessed.  You heard the saying that it is more blessed to give than to receive…that statement is truer than you know.
• Start reading the Bible and spent time praying…daily.
• Tithe 10% of your income.  It sounds like you’re giving something up, however, realize that God is your provider and if you trust him, he will pour out financial blessing on you greater that you could have ever imagined.  It’s the greatest key to financial success.
• Get  baptized.  It’s an outward confession of your faith and it an important process in your new walk with Christ.

Is Jesus God?

More about Jesus

How to be saved from the coming judgment.

Is Jesus God?

Of all the major religions, only Jesus claimed to be God.  Jesus Christ is the eternal Son of God.  He is part of the Godhead (Trinity)…the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.  He was there from the beginning.  Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about Jesus…

What Jesus said about himself:

Fear not; I am the first and the last. Revelation 1:17

I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.  Revelation 22:13

Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am.  John 8:58

I and my Father are one. Then the Jews took up stones again to stone him.   John 10:30-31

The Father is in me, and I in him. Therefore they sought again to take him.  John 10:38-39

He that hath seen me hath seen the Father.  John 14:9

Therefore did the Jews persecute Jesus, and sought to slay him, because he had done these things on the sabbath day. But Jesus answered them, My Father worketh hitherto, and I work. Therefore the Jews sought the more to kill him, because he not only had broken the sabbath, but said also that God was his Father, making himself equal with God.  John 5:16-18

And the Holy Spirit descended in bodily form like a dove upon Him, and a voice came from heaven which said, “You are My beloved Son; in You I am well pleased.” Luke 3:22

What the apostles said about Jesus:

For we did not follow cleverly devised stories when we told you about the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ in power, but we were eyewitnesses of his majesty. ¹⁷ He received honor and glory from God the Father when the voice came to him from the Majestic Glory, saying, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.” 2 Peter 1:16-17

The son is the brightness of His glory and the express image of His person, and upholding all things by the word of His power, when He had by Himself purged our sins, sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.  Hebrews 1:3

While they were stoning him, Stephen prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.” Acts 7:59

But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name.  John 20:31

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  John 1:1

And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us.  John 1:14

“The one who existed from the beginning is the one we have heard and seen. We saw him with our own eyes and touched him with our own hands. He is Jesus Christ, the Word of life”  1 John 1:1.

until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.  Ephesians 4:13

“He is the image of the invisible God, the first-born of creation. For by Him all things were created…all things have been created by Him and for Him. And He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together”  Col. 1:15-17

“Long ago God spoke many times and in many ways to our ancestors through the prophets. But now in these final days, he has spoken to us through his Son. God promised everything to the Son as an inheritance, and through the Son he made the universe and everything in it. The Son reflects God’s own glory, and everything about him represents God exactly. He sustains the universe by the mighty power of his command” Heb. 1:1-3

The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. After he had provided purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in heaven. So he became as much superior to the angels as the name he has inherited is superior to theirs.  For to which of the angels did God ever say, “You are my Son; today I have become your Father”?  Or again, “I will be his Father, and he will be my Son”?  And again, when God brings his firstborn into the world, he says, “Let all God’s angels worship him.”  But as to the Son, He [the Father] says to Him, ‘Your throne, O God, is forever and ever” Heb. 1:8

Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.  Hebrews 13:8

“He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in everything he might be preeminent. For in him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell”  Col. 1:19.

“Though he was God, he did not demand and cling to his rights as God. He made himself nothing; he took the humble position of a slave and appeared in human form. And in human form he obediently humbled himself even further by dying a criminal’s death on a cross.

Because of this, God raised him up to the heights of heaven and gave him a name that is above every other name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”  Philippians 2:6-11

“For the grace of God has been revealed bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with self-control, right conduct, and devotion to God, while we look forward to that wonderful event when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed.  Titus 2:11-13

In addition, Jesus’ coming was foretold and he fulfilled over 300 prophesies.

More about Jesus

How to be saved from the coming judgement.

There are many religions.  Some people say that all the religions lead  to heaven.  It’s the same God.  Is that true and is the Christian religion
compatible with Hinduism, Buddhism and Islam, etc.?

If you study all major religions, you will find that all major religions point toward truth.

Buddhism says that truth is found through an 8 fold path.  It says that if you strive toward truth all your life, you may eventually discover the truth.  But Buddha at the end of his life in a famous statement said that “I’m still searching for the truth”.

Hindu scripture says that truth is very illusive and you probably never find it.  It’s like a butterfly, just about the time you grab it, it will fly off.

Others say that truth must be searched for by purifying yourself by chanting…and maybe you just might get to the truth.

Mohammed said “I’m a prophet and I point toward the truth.”

Jesus came along and said “I am the truth”.  He did not say that I point to the truth or I teach the truth but “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me”.  John 14:6

A way is a person…not a path, not a religion.  It’s a person and the person is Jesus Christ.

John 8:32 says “then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

God reveils himself to people who seek him.  Jeremiah 29:13 says that “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

Jesus Christ died for our sins so we may be saved from the penalty of sin.  Click on the links below for more info

How to get into Heaven!

Who is Jesus!

Jesus and the Rich Ruler

Last week, our pastor talked about the passage in the Bible where the rich ruler asked Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life.  Mark 10:17-29.

I think most people are unsure or misunderstand what this passage really means.  In this article we’ll try to answer the following questions:

• Does this passage say that Jesus is denying his divinity?
• Does this scripture say that every rich person will go to hell or that we must give all your money to the poor to get into heaven?
• What can one do to inherit eternal life?

1. In Mark 10:18, when Jesus responded to him saying “why do you call me good…only God is good”, does he at that point deny his divinity?  Let’s take a closer look at the situation.  This man came to Jesus.  He called him teacher.  The fact that he called him teacher shows us
   that he did not see Jesus as the Son of God…he saw him merely as a good, smart person…that is why he responded to this man saying “why do you call me good…only God is good?”  Jesus talks to us personally based on where each person is coming from.  If Jesus had meant to deny his divinity, he would have replied simply that he was a sinner. But Jesus’ divinity isn’t the issue.  He was merely questioning him based on the rich man’s response, to make him reflect on his words.  Jesus realized that this person was blind as to who Jesus really was and that this person based his view of salvation on works and on lineage since he used the word inherit.
2. In Mark 10:21-23, Jesus tells him to sell everything and follow him.  When the young man turned away sadly, Jesus explained that it is hard for a rich man to find salvation.  There are actually two important points to be made concerning these verses.  Will selling everything get us into heaven? NO.  1 Corinthians: 13 is clear on this.  Even if we give all your money to the poor, it will not provide salvation.  We can’t buy our way into heaven.  What Jesus was talking about is this – he knew the person’s heart.  He was simply testing his character.  He knew that possessions were more important to him than following God.  Luke 16:13 says “No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money”. That is why he went away sad, because he was unwilling to lay down his wealth (the idol in his life).  We need to lay down all of the idols in our
   lives…especially money.As  far as all rich people going to hell is concerned…just remember that some of the greatest people in the Bible like Abraham, Noah and others were some of the richest people of their time and God loved them and they loved God.  God wants us to be successful.  The key is to keep our hearts on God and not allow ourselves to be focused on our possessions.  By the way, we can be just as obsessed by money and thinking about money if we are poor.  We can get into the trap of thinking that more money would solve all our problems.  In reality, if Jesus is our focus, everything else will fall into place.  It’s a good reminder for all of us.
3. Starting in Mark 10:23, Jesus starts explaining how hard it is for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.  He says “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.”  What does that even mean?  For a long time I actually thought that he was talking about a sewing needle.   However, what he was talking about is a small opening in a city wall that was big enough for a camel or a person to get through if they took everything off and kneeled down and crept through.  In other words, we need to leave everything behind.  There is nothing we can do for God.  There are no good deeds (no matter how good) that could ever get us into heaven.  Living a good life will not save us.  It is simply being saved by Grace. The Bible says that we have all sinned and fallen short, and that Jesus died for us and paid the price for our sins.  The Bible simply says to accept Jesus’ free gift and turn from your sins and we will be saved.  That is it.  Doing good things, being baptized, reading the Bible, etc. is really just a sign of us being saved but not the key to salvation.

Follow these links for more information on Salvation. Are you a good person – A Test, Salvation.

We all face failure in our lives at times; whether they are recurring fears, lost opportunities, possibly even moral failures.  One of mine is that I get nervous when speaking to groups when I feel like I’m being evaluated.  Then my breath gets short and my voice starts cracking.  I’m just not myself when that happens and I feel terrible afterwards.  It’s not like it happens all the time either.  In those situations I feel like Peter, when he walked on water and then began to sink when he got his eyes off Jesus.  I can hear Jesus saying…”Oh you of little faith”.

At those times…some of us start believing the enemy (satan).  He tells us that we’re worthless failures or that God does not care about us or even love us.  We tend to feel defeated and ready to give up and let the enemy win.  Though giving up and giving in to the lies of the enemy seems like the easy thing to do sometimes, is that what God wants us to do?

It’s hard to get up…especially when we try to do it on our own strength.  The good news is that we don’t have to do it on our own strength…we have a helper and that is Jesus and the Holy Spirit.  God does not want us to do anything on our might.  He does want us to take the initial step of faith, repent and then get up, however, He does not want us to do it on our own strength.  He wants us to give him our failures, fears and burdens and move forward.  Also, He does not want us to live in the past.  Many of us relive our failure a thousand times over and over in our thoughts.  We need to stop that.  The Bible says that we should take every thought captive into the obedience of Jesus Christ.  That means that He wants us to consciously cast away thoughts that do not come from Him.  We can’t prevent every thought from entering our minds, however, we have to make a decision on what to do with those thoughts.  Do we meditate on that bad thought or do we take that thought captive…do we bind it to a scripture and dismiss it?  Which route we chose is up to us.  Let’s choose right.

God wants us to get up when we experience failure or defeat.  Never ever is God saying to give in to defeat.  He is our biggest advocate who encourages us to get up because He is an overcomer and has already overcome this world. 

The Bible says…

 Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet He did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.  Hebrews 4:14-16

 “Though a righteous man falls seven times, He rises again.” Proverbs 24:16.   

“These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

 ‘Do not fear, for I am with you; do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’ Isaiah 41:10

Cast your burden on the Lord [releasing the weight of it] and He will sustain you; He will never allow the [consistently] righteous to be moved (made to slip, fall, or fail). Psalm 55:22

God wants us to get up.  The key to success is not the act of falling down but that act of getting back up.

“But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.” 2 Chronicles 15:7

I wish that I could overcome some of my struggles in an instant, however, it’s more of a slow process most of the time.  Nevertheless, God wants us to be overcomers and He gave us all the tools to do that.  You might think that you will never overcome this illness, addition, fear, etc. in this life, but that is not what God says.  The Grace that saved us from sins consequences also provides us with the power to be overcomers and to live holy, righteous, successful lives.  It’s the lack of faith that is truly holding us back.  Jesus talked to his disciples many times about their lack of faith.  If we had the faith of just a mustard seed we could move mountains.  We could pray for the sick and they would be healed.

How do we get more faith?  We get it by spending more time in the word, in prayer and in thought with Jesus.  We get it by trusting Him when these situations come up and by surrendering our fears, our doubts, our past, our failure continually to him and giving him thanks for the victories.  We get it by little victories along the way when we step out in faith and trust God.  We get it by getting up one more time.  Let’s write down all that God blessed us with and read those blessings once a day for the next 30 days.  We need to train our minds toward God and rebuke the enemy who want us to live defeated lives.  Let’s start living a victorious life starting NOW!

Don’t give up on God because He has not given up on you.  THIS IS IMPORTANT!!!  You might feel that your sin is too big for God ever be able to forgive you.  That is a lie of the enemy.  God is not proud of our sins, however, He is always ready to receive us back if we repent and ask Him into our hearts.  You might say…I have sinned 500 times…I have done really bad things.  Repent, ask God to forgive you, and ask Jesus into your life…He is waiting.

Father, increase our faith so we may live the life you meant for us to live.  Amen!

I thought I’d share this great resource that was presented by our pastor recently.  It serves as a reminder to what it takes to live a godly life.  We have a responsibility as Christians to live by this covenant with God…not as an obligation but as a evidence of our salvation.  It is also not an attempt to save our selves by living good lives…that is not possible since we’re saved by Grace alone, however, once we accept Jesus in our lives, there should be some fruit or evidence that we’re saved.   The same Grace that saved us also gives us the ability and the power to change our behavior and live a life worthy of our calling.

Feel free to download a printable version of “My Covenant with God” by clicking on this link.

In Covenant with God

I Will

Be Responsible
For we are each responsible for our own conduct. Galatians 5:6 (NLT)

Know The Word Of God
For the word of God is full of living power. It is sharper than the sharpest knife, cutting deep into our innermost thoughts and desires. It exposes us for what we really are. Nothing in all creation can hide from him. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes. This is the God to whom we must explain all that we have done. Hebrews 12-13

Be Fruitful In All Areas Of My Life
“Unless you are faithful in small matters, you won’t be faithful in large ones. If you cheat even a little, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. Luke 16:10

Love God With All Your Heart, Mind and Strength
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.”  Matthew 22:37

Always Honor Authority
The authorities are sent by God to help you. But if you are doing something wrong, of course you should be afraid, for you will be punished. The authorities are established by God for that very purpose, to punish those who do wrong.  So you must obey the government for two reasons: to keep from being punished and to keep a clear conscience. Romans 13:4-5

Pray
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Philippians 4:6

Work Diligently
Work hard and cheerfully at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.  Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and the Master you are serving is Christ.  Colossians 3:23-24

Forgive Others and Reconcile With Those I Have Wronged
But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.  Mark 11:25-26

Walk With Integrity
For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people.  And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with self-control, right conduct, and devotion to God,  while we look forward to that wonderful event when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed.  Titus 2:11-13

Work To Fulfill Each Of These Items For The Rest Of My Life For His Glory
But if you are unwilling to serve the LORD, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the LORD.  Joshua 24:15

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Thanksgiving is a great holiday. It’s the day when we Americans give thanks. It makes us reflect on the many blessings in our lives. Some of you might face real tragedy or hardship. You might be faced with a job loss, foreclosure or even something life threatening like cancer. You might have to dig very deep to see any blessings in your life, however, make no mistake, there is always something to be thankful about.

I think about that:
I can walk
I have Christ in my life
I have a wonderful family
I’m healthy
I can see
I can hear
I live in a great country
That I have great friends
I’m thankful for our soldiers

1 Thess 5:18 says “give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus”.NIV (read passage on Crosswalk.com)

Having a thankful heart or being happy is not based on our circumstances…it’s a Gift from God if and when we seek him. He is waiting…

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May God bless you richly this Thanksgiving!

Every person will be judged

We’ll all be judged one day, Christians and non-Christians alike.

There is a good reason the Bible says in Proverbs 1:7 that “The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom”.  Many people I talk with, even many who say they believe in God say that God is all love and therefore would never punish anyone.  The Bible actually says just the opposite.  It talks about two different judgments, one that relates to everyone about our belief in Jesus as the savior of the world and the other relates to every word and or deed that Christians say or do.  

Non Christians will be judged

Accepting Jesus Christ as our savior is the most important decision of our lives?  It’s a yes or no question.  There is no middle ground, no neutral place…we have to choose.

The choice we make has eternal consequences. Many of us look at our lives here on earth as the main part of existence; however, the Bible is clear, we’re eternal beings.  If we choose Christ, we spend eternity in heaven, if not, an eternity in hell and the lake of fire.

HEAVEN – a place of total contentment, peace and joy…forever

HELL – a place of physical and emotional pain and egony…a place of true regret…forever.

Both, the Old and New Testament talks about eventual judgment…

“At that time Michael, the great prince who protects your people, will arise. There will be a time of distress such as has not happened from the beginning of nations until then. But at that time your people–everyone whose name is found written in the book–will be delivered.  Multitudes who sleep in the dust of the earth will awake: some to everlasting life, others to shame and everlasting contempt.  Dan 12:1-2 (NIV)

Then I saw a great white throne and him who was seated on it. Earth and sky fled from his presence, and there was no place for them.  And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened. Another book was opened, which is the book of life. The dead were judged according to what they had done as recorded in the books.  The sea gave up the dead that were in it, and death and Hades gave up the dead that were in them, and each person was judged according to what he had done.  Then death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire.  The lake of fire is the second death.   If anyone’s name was not found written in the book of life, he was thrown into the lake of fire.   Rev 20:11-15 (NIV)

The book of life records everyone who accepted Jesus as their savior.  Salvation is a choice and a free gift.  Whether or not we accept this free gift is the difference between eternal glory and eternal damnation.  The only way to have our names written into the book of life is through the free gift of Jesus…there is no other way.  We can’t earn our way into heaven…it is a free gift.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.  Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.  John 3:16-18 (NIV)

Christians will be judged.

It’s called the judgment seat of Christ.

For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.  2 Cor 5:10 (NIV)

 We will get an award for our good deeds.

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  Gal 6:9 (NIV)

“Behold, I am coming soon! My reward is with me, and I will give to everyone according to what he has done.  Rev 22:12 (NIV)

 We can’t take our houses or other possessions into heaven, however, all the work we do for God will follow us.

Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”   Rev 14:13 (NIV)

 God has a record of every careless word that we have ever spoken.  We will also be judged for our work. 

But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.   Matt 12:36 (NIV)

By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as an expert builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should be careful how he builds.  For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.  If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man’s work.  If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward.  If it is burned up, he will suffer loss; he himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames.  1 Cor 3:10-15 (NIV)

 May God have mercy on us all.  When I read the above, it made me re-evaluate my life.  I hope you do the same.

Key to Happiness #14 – A Balanced Life

Family, work, health, ministry, leisure, God, civic duties, friends, etc. are all areas that fight for our time.  Finding balance is not a simple process…it takes discipline.

There are certain times in our lives where one or two of the above areas seem to consume every minute of our time.  I sure struggle with this sometimes.   I remember when I was in my twenties and I was really into exercising.  I literally worked out seven to eight hours per day.  I’d run several miles, then swim for two hours, then do weights and leg lifts for another few hours.  I was in great shape, however, other parts of my life where non existent or were seriously lacking.

Then, in my late twenties and early thirties, I was really focused on work.  I could work sixty hours per week and still want to work more.  I had to prove I was the best!

My next phase was when I was very involved in church…always busy doing something.  Don’t get me wrong…there is nothing wrong with working hard and being involved in good causes.  At the same time, if your family life is suffering and therefore it costs you your marriage or you lose your health over it – or even worse, if it costs you your soul, it is not worth it!  I think we all know people that have had such outcomes.  It’s always easier to see the imbalance in other peoples’ lives so it is helpful to examine our own every so often.

Finding true balance.

Prioritizing and balancing our activities is very helpful, however, in my opinion, the only way to find true balance is to have God in the center of all our activities.  Only then will we find true balance and happiness.

God wants to be the center of our universe.  We are made that way.  “In His presence is fullness of joy.”  Ps 16:11

Any time we replace him with something else from the outside, we are literally putting something in the way of true happiness and contentment.

Here are some scripture that talk about our priorities:

Matthew 6:33 “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; …

Matthew 22:36-40 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law? Jesus replied: “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Philippians 3:7-8 “But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ…”

Scheduling your time:

The only way we can get balanced is to schedule times for our activities.  We start with the most important areas and work our way down to the least.  Some should be daily activities like praying (preferably with your spouse) and spending time in the word.  Other activities like exercise might be 3 times per week, etc.  It is important to note that if you have never exercised or read the Bible, I suggest you start small and build up so you won’t get burned out.  Start with just 5 minutes per day reading the Bible for example and add as you grow.  The same with exercise – don’t commit to one hour of exercising if you have never done it.  Just start with a few minutes once or twice per week and as you feel motivated add additional time.

In addition, don’t work 7 days per week.  Take off a day and relax to re-charge your batteries.

Keys to happiness exercise:

• Ask God for help and direction (ask Jesus into your life if you have not done so already…  He’s your guide, your helper and your key to happiness).
• Set some time aside to set your priorities
• Set a schedule that is workable.

Other great resources on this subject check out :
Encouraging Bible Verses on Balance, Focus on the Family, Christian Challenge on Balance.

May you find happiness by balancing your life!  We hope these tips help you get started.

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Key to Happiness #13 – Being Passionate About Your Work

We all know what it feels like to work for a paycheck just to make a living.  I’ve been there a few times in my life.  Have you?  If you’re honest, you probably have too.  When you add the normal pressures and stresses of life, a seemingly meaningless job can make your existence a living hell.  You wake up on Monday morning and you wish it was Friday afternoon.  Especially now in this tough economy, there are lots of very talented and accomplished people who have been laid off and now are taking lesser jobs just to pay the bills.

I remember when I was growing up in Austria.  I was not quite 15 years old and, like all kids my age, I was faced with a huge life decision – should I go to the university or go into an apprenticeship to learn a profession?  At that time, about 70% of kids my age chose an apprenticeship and about 30% went to the university.

Think about that – it’s hard enough to figure out what to do with your life in your twenties –so imagine how hard it is when you’re just 15 years of age!  Well, since my mom had owned restaurants since I was just a tot and I had grown up helping in the kitchen, I thought an apprenticeship in that industry was the way to go.  I spent 4 years in an apprenticeship (free labor to a local proprietor if the truth be told) and several more years working on a cruise ship practicing my profession.  I was pretty good at it.  Then, one day it hit me – I have absolutely no passion for preparing, delivering or managing food in any way, shape or form!  The thought of dedicating the rest of my life to this industry is beyond depressing.

 I was lost for a few years trying a variety of jobs.   It wasn’t until after I’d been in America for a couple years that I finally discovered a true passion – advertising.  I stumbled into it really, just setting appointments for a little coupon company in the beginning, but I quickly realized I had an affinity to the whole world of advertising and marketing.  I had always been a great observer of people and so I had good instincts about what would, and would not get their attention.  I loved the creativity.  25 years later, I am still fascinated with the art of it and I feel blessed to have found something I enjoy so much.

America, the land of opportunity.

Unless you’ve lived in another country, you can’t really appreciate what we have here in the good ole U.S. of A.  There is so much opportunity here…even now in this tough economy!  In Austria as a child the word was that in America the streets were lined with gold and all you have to do is pick it up.  Anyone with a dream can make it there!  It takes a little bit of imagination, a little faith and a lot of work…that’s all.  Well, this is actually true!  My mom was a determined go-getter opening and running a restaurant while raising three kids, so I had a good role model for setting goals and working towards them.  After 25 years in the states, the problem I notice with most Americans is that they never heard the part about planning and actually working towards their goals… but that’s another lesson.

We’re meant to work. 

Here is what the Bible has to say about your responsibility to work:

Genesis 2:15
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.

Proverbs 14:23
All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

Ecclesiastes 9:10
Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

2 Thessalonians 3:10
For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.”

Reevaluating your work:

The first thing we need to do is evaluate what we do for a living and asking ourselves, why do we do what we do?  What kind of work would we do if we had all the money in the world?  These are not easy questions, and the answers are not necessarily obvious, however, we need to find the answer.

Satisfaction from work:

If we truly are working within the gifts that God has given each of us, there will be a tremendous satisfaction that comes from that.  You also will find that since you’re excited about it, you’re also interested in learning everything there is to know about that work, which will show in your performance.  Because of this, there is also a higher likelihood that you will get promoted.

Dealing with life’s passions:

At one point or another, we all have dreams of becoming a professional sports star, a rock star or a famous actor, etc.  I know several friends who have amazing gifts in acting, singing, art and sports.  At the same time, being able to make a living in these industries can be extremely difficult.  Only a very small percentage of people actually make a living at these professions. 

So, what do we do with those Gifts?  One thing we should look at is our motivation.  What is our goal?  Is it to become famous or be someone great?  Do we have selfish reasons or do we want to use those gifts to be a blessing to others?  Do we ask God…”Lord how would you want me to use those gifts you have blessed me with?”  Your happiness will depend on how you answer this question.

 Even if you’re not able to make a living, your gifts and passions should provide a great deal of fulfillment and happiness.

Making a transition to find more fulfilling work.

Transitioning out of a job and especially a career will not be an easy move to make.  The first thing I would recommend is praying about it.  God wants you to find the work and interests He has created you for more than you do!  Talk to Him.  He wants to guide you!

Here is what the Bible has to say about seeking wisdom:

Proverbs 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

Ecclesiastes 2:26
To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God.

James 1:5
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

Psalm 1:1-3
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

Psalm 37:5
Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. 

Proverbs 3:5-10
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Honour the Lord with thy substance, and with the firstfruits of all thine increase: So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.

Ecclesiastes 3:13
And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God.

Matthew 6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

I wish I could say that I have always taken my own advice here.  Honestly, however, I have not and it has cost me dearly the times when I haven’t.  Ask your Father in heaven to show you the interests and giftings – that is step one.  The succeeding steps have to do with the timing and partnerships that may be required.  God might begin to unfold your dream and show you a new career, but the timing might not be right.  He might want to teach you something else by making you wait as He prepares you.  Just remember that His plans for you are good and rich with the promise that He wants to see you happy and fulfilled.  Seeking His will can save you a lot of wasted time and a lot of pain.  For step by step direction on how to find work that is fulfilling, follow the exercise below.

Keys to happiness exercise:

• Ask God for help and direction (ask Jesus into your life if you have not done so already…  He’s your guide, your helper and your key to happiness).
• Set some time aside to think about why you do what you do.
• Think about your true passions and how you could possibly make a living.
• Make a plan, set some goals, and work toward that goal each and every day.
• Keep working on those Gifts.
• Continue to seek God’s will.
• Never give up on your dream

Other great success resources on this subject check out:

Here is a great article by Sharon Teitelbaum titled “Being passionate about your work”
Another great article by Janine Milne titled “Learning to be passionate about your work”

Previous Happiness Lessons:

How to find Happiness – 15 Lesson Series – Overview

How to find Happiness – Introduction

How to find Happiness – Key #1 – A relationship with God

How to find Happiness – Key #2 – Being thankful

How to find Happiness - Key #3 – Forgive yourself

How to find Happiness - Key #4 – Learning How to forgive others

How to find Happiness - Key #5 – Living in the present

How to find Happiness - Key #6 – Overcoming fear

How to find Happiness - Key #7 – Giving of your money

How to find Happiness - Key #8 – Giving of your time

How to find Happiness - Key #9 – Putting God first

How to find Happiness - Key #10 – Setting Goals

How to find Happiness – Key #11 – Making Friends and Meeting New People

How to find Happiness – Key #12 – MaStaying Active

May you find happiness by finding fulfilling work.  We hope these tips help you get started.

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Key to Happiness #12 – Staying Active

We’ve all seen it, maybe even in our own families.  Someone retires and within just a few years they deteriorate mentally and physically and die.  Their work was their life and their purpose.  They no longer had work to give them direction and they did not replace that activity with something else.  Their health and their will to live just evaporated.  And of course, we all know about the empty nest issue most parents deal with.  Their whole purpose was their kids, and one day they realize the kids have grown up…and they’re gone.  The house is empty and their lives seem to have lost their purpose.

What happened?   Many studies have been done that show that people who stay active physically and mentally are much healthier and happier than those who do not.  Should that be a surprise?  Not really.  At the same time, I’m not saying that we should fill every moment of our days with activities.  Everything needs to be done in balance.

Sometimes sickness, depression, loneliness, etc., can make us want to stay in our houses and veg out and do nothing, which only feeds whatever we’re suffering from even more.

Staying active has several parts:

• Staying active physically
• Staying active mentally
• Staying active socially (see previous Happiness articles like “Making New Friends and Meeting New People” and “Giving of your Time”.

Staying active physically:

This is not an easy task, especially when you’re in pain.  In my case…and maybe in your case too, doing any kind of exercise after a long day at work is the last thing I want to do.  So what do we do?  I know that exercise is good for me and a very important part of taking care of this temple of the Holy Spirit, but do I always feel like doing it?  No.  Oh, I don’t think you have to be too rigid with yourself, but when I feel like that, most of the time I pray to Jesus and ask Him to give me strength.   Then, just a block or two into my speed walk (with my two Border Collies) I have totally forgotten how tired and cranky I was!

Again, don’t over-commit…like committing to 7 days per week 2 hours per day.  You’d just set yourself up for failure.   What you’re trying to do is form a habit.  As you go along, you will naturally feel better and end up doing more than just the minimum.  For me, getting to the gym is the hard part.  Once I’m there, it’s really not that hard.  95% of success is just showing up.

Here are some tips:

• Set a schedule.  Some days might be easier than others
• Start with a light schedule…like 3 days per week for 15 minutes each.
• Depending on your physical ability, you might just walk for a couple blocks
• Partner up with others…it makes it a lot more fun.  I happen to walk with my wife and our dogs.  It also provides a great time to talk and spend time together.

Here is what the Bible says about staying active physically:

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price.  So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. 1 Timothy 4:8

Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth.  He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.  He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.  Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.  Isaiah 40:28-31

Staying active mentally:

Sometimes when I’m tired, I don’t feel like doing anything but vegging out watching TV.  I’m not saying that you should never do that…just don’t make it a habit.  It’s easy to slide into a routine that includes 2–5 hours of TV per day.  Just as with physical activity, it takes effort to get out of that rut.  The amazing thing is that when we do keep our minds sharp, we’re happier and more fulfilled…amazing.

There are many things that we can do like read a book, learn something new…like computers, painting, study a new language.  I personally like Woodworking.  It takes a lot of mental focus and to me it’s a great way to relax.  As we learn and/or accomplish something new, it gives us a sense of satisfaction.  Just as with physical activity…don’t over-commit.  Start small with short term projects.  As you get more comfortable with your new activity, you can plan longer term projects.

Here is what the Bible says about exercising your brain:

“My son, preserve sound judgment and discernment, do not let them out of your sight; they will be life for you, an ornament to grace your neck. Then you will go on your way in safety, and your foot will not stumble. ”   Proverbs 3:21-23

“He who gets wisdom loves his own soul; he who cherishes understanding prospers.” Proverbs 19:8

“Show me thy ways, O Lord; teach me thy paths.  Lead me in thy truth, and teach me.” Psalm 25:4-5

Keys to happiness exercise:

• Ask God for help and strength and courage (ask Jesus into your life if you have not done so already.  He’s your helper and healer)
• Set some time aside every week for physical, mental and communal activities.  Start small…don’t over commit.
• Partner up with someone if possible

For other great resources on this subject check out Staying Active on WomensHeath.org.   For resources on staying active mentally check out Alz.org.  For additional info on staying active physically check out www.CDC.org.

Previous Happiness Lessons:

How to find Happiness – 15 Lesson Series – Overview

How to find Happiness – Introduction

How to find Happiness – Key #1 – A relationship with God

How to find Happiness – Key #2 – Being thankful

How to find Happiness - Key #3 – Forgive yourself

How to find Happiness - Key #4 – Learning How to forgive others

How to find Happiness - Key #5 – Living in the present

How to find Happiness - Key #6 – Overcoming fear

How to find Happiness - Key #7 – Giving of your money

How to find Happiness - Key #8 – Giving of your time

How to find Happiness - Key #9 – Putting God first

How to find Happiness - Key #10 – Setting Goals

How to find Happiness – Key #11 – Making Friends and Meeting New People

May you find happiness by staying active.  We hope these tips help you get started.

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Key #11 to Happiness - Making Friends and Meeting New People!

We humans were never meant to be alone.  We are made to interact with other people and are much happier when we do.

I can sure relate to this one.  I had the pleasure of working from home for almost 20 years, which, at the time, I truly enjoyed.  As the years went on, however, I realized I wasn’t meeting new people – and thus, not making many new friends.  Being isolated 8-5 Monday through Friday wasn’t all it was cracked up to be.  My wife worked from home too and we really began to long for opportunities to make new friends and rub elbows more often with interesting people.

People who are isolated have more of a tendency to be depressed and not feel good about themselves.  I know this was true for me.  Sure, spending quiet, private time daily with the Lord is essential, but overall, it is important that we resist the urge to avoid others and spend most of our time alone.  For most, it leads to serious disillusionment and loneliness.

Some of you who are reading this article might think that no one likes you and therefore you are hesitant to meet new people.  There are some people who seem to make new friends very easily.  For others, however, it seems impossible.  If this describes you, I want you to know that this is a lie straight from hell.  First of all, Jesus likes you and made you just exactly the way He wanted.  He loves you no matter what you have done…or haven’t done. 

God is faithful (reliable, trustworthy, and therefore ever true to His promise, and He can be depended on); by Him you were called into companionship and participation with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.
1 Corinthians 1: 9

And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend.  James 2:23

Others will like you too once they get to know you.  We all have good and bad qualities, including the new people you meet.  Only one Person is/was/and ever will be perfect…and His initials are J.C.   All of the people you will meet have their own set of insecurities and challenges.  They want to make friends too but feel uncomfortable about allowing themselves to be seen by new people. 

Will you get along with everyone and have everyone like you?  No way.  At the same time, why not make an effort?  When you do, you will meet some great people and some will even turn out to be true lifelong friends.

Here are some Bible verses:

A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother, for adversity. Proverbs 17: 17

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.   1 John 4:11

Oil and perfume rejoice the heart; so does the sweetness of a friend’s counsel that comes from the heart. Proverbs 27: 9

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27: 17

“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.”  Romans 12:9-10

Reaching out to meet people:

As I said before, most people have their own issues and often will not approach you.  You’ll need to make an effort.  In fact, most likely, you’ll have to make the first move.  I know it can be scary.  Heck, I’d rather everyone reach out to me too.  But 99% of the time, they’ll even tell you how much they appreciate your effort!  You might want to invite people from work to a barbeque at your house, or give them your business card and ask them to have lunch sometime.

Where to meet people:

We’ve met some great friends going to the dog park or at a church picnic when you’re standing around eating food.  Just get out.  Go places where people are.

How to meet people:

This isn’t really deep but…just say “hi, my name is…!”  Give them a compliment on something you like about them or something they’re doing.  Also remember, people like to talk about themselves.  Be interested in them…pretty soon you will discover an interest or something you have in common.  Focus on them and you’ll make lots of friends.  If you hit it off, invite them out for coffee or lunch, arrange to get together or just give them your card or phone number.

Once you get to know people, make an effort to cultivate your friendships.  Get together with at  least a friend once every week or two.  You might have to initiate these invitations, but remember, you’ll be the one that will be more fulfilled and happier for it.

I recently practiced what I’m preaching as my wife was out of town visiting family for a week.  It can get pretty lonely when we’re by ourselves, so I decided to invite several people over that have not seen for a while.  All of us were blessed by this outreach with a good time and great conversation, plus we got to know each other just a little more.

Keys to happiness exercise:

• Ask God for help and courage (ask Jesus into your life if you have not done so already.  He’s the best friend you’ll ever have)
• Look for a church that you can meet people.  Stick around after service and introduce yourself.
• Go to some events or places where people are and start conversations.  If you have a dog, visit the dog park.
• Make a plan to call and invite current friends you would like to spend time with.
• Pray to God that He will help you make new friends.

Previous Happiness Lessons:

How to find Happiness – 15 Lesson Series – Overview

How to find Happiness – Introduction

How to find Happiness – Key #1 – A relationship with God

How to find Happiness – Key #2 – Being thankful

How to find Happiness - Key #3 – Forgive yourself

How to find Happiness - Key #4 – Learning How to forgive others

How to find Happiness - Key #5 – Living in the present

How to find Happiness - Key #6 – Overcoming fear

How to find Happiness - Key #7 – Giving of your money

How to find Happiness - Key #8 – Giving of your time

How to find Happiness - Key #9 – Putting God first

How to find Happiness - Key #10 – Setting Goals

May you find happiness by making new friends and spending more time with people you already know! 

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